Monthly Archives: September 2013
Parents
This came across my Twitter recently from some ed leaders that I follow. I thought it was necessary to share it with everyone. I hope it serves as encouragement to feel comfortable standing up for your child’s education.
Derek Oldfield
Parent Pushback
Lately, I am seeing a troubling trend that I am sure is not new, but as a “younger” parent I am starting to take notice of. Many of my friends have kids starting back at school as well as countless members of my PLN online. My inboxes, streams and updates are flooded with great back to school pictures but also some complaints. It appears that lots of parents have experienced things with their child in school they are not happy with. This is not a terribly new occurrence but some of the reactions are not sitting right with me.
Parents are loathing the fact they have to sign a paper indicating if their child doesn’t turn their work in on time it will be marked as a zero. They post updates about the absurdity of a teacher’s homework calendar and insane amount of packets that are coming home nightly for completion. Some are even sharing personal stories about signing off on classroom rules and policies they completely disagree with. Another trend is children being injured at school and parents not being notified. This troubles me. If parents are upset enough to post and share about these things, then why are they not taking steps to change it? Why are they not at least making it a point of conversation with their child’s teacher or building staff?
When I begin questioning these individuals, they all have excuses about why they do not step up and push back on the classroom teacher. The most common answer is they don’t want their words or actions to be held against their child. There is a fear if they become “that parent” their child will be singled out and treated differently because of it. Another reason I have heard is many of these parents are teachers in their child’s district and have a level of anxiety over their jobs. If they push back as a parent, what will that mean for their role as a teacher?
I wish I had an easy answer to those problems because the sad reality is both of those things happen in some cases. I have seen this first hand and it is something in the back of my mind as a parent. I can’t defend those teachers and yet many teachers would welcome the parent feedback and others just may need to be pushed. As a teacher if I am doing something that is upsetting to a parent or family, I want to be aware of it. If not, I can’t change my practice or at least have an opportunity to explain my actions. On the other side of the fence, as a parent I feel that my children deserve the best education possible and will advocate as such in a professional and appropriate manner. If parents are not willing to standup for what they know or think is right, the inevitable outcome is more negative updates and inboxes.
Just as I feel teachers have a moral obligation to stand up for every child, do we not expect parents to do the same for their own? Yes, I recognize that many educators fear parents will be unreasonable or inappropriate in their perceived demands. If we as parents stand by and allow things we disagree with to be done to our children, we are part of the problem. On the other hand, if we as teachers do not provide opportunities and situations for parents to provide that feedback, then we are the bigger problem.
What are you doing as a parent to constructively push back on your child’s school or teacher? As a teacher, how are you providing a forum for this discussion to take place?
HELP! I’m lost already
I won’t normally send anything remotely close to this, but I feel this is important enough to communicate in such a way.
Every year at the beginning of school I let my students in on a “secret” to success in 8th grade math. I’ve only taught 8th grade math for 4 years now, but it doesn’t take one long to figure it out. The students that have A’s in my class by end of the first semester all have one thing in common. They can all MULTIPLY quickly and correctly. These students do this without the use of a calculator, of course. The secret really is that simple. If you want to succeed in 8th grade math know your multiplication facts and be able to answer them QUICKLY AND CORRECTLY. The ugly sister of multiplication is division and in my experience most students despise division almost as much as they despise fractions. The only explanation for disliking division is that students don’t know multiplication. OK, the rest of this note is for parents:
Parents, we have just completed a small section about converting a repeating decimal to a fraction and vise-versa. These problems are visible among approximately 70% of my students.
Reducing the fraction 6/9. Most students struggle mightily to reduce 6/9 to 2/3. Most students struggle mightily to simplify 8/6 to 4/3. When I write 3/9 = ?/3 most students can’t fill in the ? with the correct number. Obviously all of these problems are related to a poor foundation in multiplication.
SOLUTION: I have flashcards that I can loan out. If your child has a smartphone there are FREE flash card apps that they can use to practice. Khan Academy has a section on multiplying and dividing, they can practice there. There are websites that have flashcards on them. www.arcademicskillbuilders.com is a website I’ve used in class before. It really works on math fluency (quickly and correctly) in a game-like setting. There are a number of ways your child can practice his/her multiplication facts. This is true, he/she will feel like they are swimming upstream if they do NOT know their multiplication facts in 8th grade math.
I get parents/students who always say “Well can’t they use a calculator Mr. Oldfield?” Sure they can. But eventually you can not put 3x – 18 = 42 into a calculator and have it spit out an answer. In 8th grade we just do some things where it is extremely crucial that they be able to multiply and divide quickly and correctly.
I hope this helps. I also hope that I do not sound angry or mad. I’m not. I try to differentiate my classroom as much as possible. In my next note, I’ll reveal some of my gripes about math in public school 🙂
Thanks,
Derek Oldfield